Single and loving it

Last August, I was #drunkInLove and wrote a post about why being having a boyfriend is the greatest thing ever. Single sunshiney Rach here, to counteract that statement.

Why having a boyfriend rocks being single is the better option. As told to you by me.

They are required to clean off your cars from the snow. In the cold. With no gloves. Like shit, am I not independent? It's pretty much known that an independent woman is sexier than one that relies on her boyfriend for all her problem solving skills (at least he was good for math help). Being independent is great, you also don't have to share food

They pretend or learn to appreciate the things you give many craps about. I mean isn't that what blog friends and instagram followers are for?

You can laugh about ugly pictures of you two together from when you were younger/before dating (if applicable) I got nothing for this one. Take shot. And snapchat about it.

You can dress them how you want. LIKE A REAL LIFE KEN DOLL. It's safe to say we like guys who aren't so much mama's boys. They can do their own laundry, cook for themselves, and know to say no to zip off cargo pants. Sure when I have a boyfriend I don't mind spending money on him, but now? It's all about more retail therapy for moi *evil laugh here*.

You now have a reason to give someone pointless DIY crafts. and they accept them. Again, entering blog world has been a tremendous thing in my life because you appreciate the art shenans I get myself into. I wonder where his 9(?) month picture frame I made him featuring a "HAPPY 9 MONTHS I LOVE YOU" is. Trash? Probably. His room? Dear lord, I'd be needing a new pair of pants for that one. Brb, laughing uncontrollably. 

Boom. You now have someone by your side to dance with at frat parties. Or parties in general. THIS IS WHAT A BEST FRIEND IS FOR. You also don't have to worry about jersey turnpiking. Stick to the merp-system.

You can take dumb pictures with them, and people still think you guys are the cutest. Well, atleast thats what they comment........ Being a human in 2014, I can reassure you you can do this with Pluto or Ryan Gosling and it would be considered cute. Boom.

You can see how much you've both changed. Or not changed. Does becoming more cynical count?

You can dance like absolute loons together. and it's still damn cute. Silly relation shipped Rachel, you can do that with a shot of tequila.

They look cute when playing with puppies. and babies. You just can't help but sort of get all googly-eyed and go "awwwwwwwww". Puppies > boyfriends. Seriously, they will love you unconditionally and not break up with you and jump up and down and do wrestling matches with them. 

The best part? They still choose to go near you after you throw up on them. Aka that happened to me in 2010. On a bus. Sitting next to B. Well we broke up, so clearly the vom thing was too close to comfort. CYA!

To my dearest Rachel when she's in a relationship, don't forget about your day 1 homies (i.e. Pizza Lunchables, Chocolate ice cream, and your iPhone portable charger). They really can't ever leave your side (which is a-okay by them), so don't neglect them! Guys will break your heart, tell you you're crazy (...but I'm not Taylor Swift..?), and enjoy your drunk snapchats, but at the end of the day will they be there when your looking for someone to love? LOL no.  Xox, Single (and sort of lovin' it) Rachel.

A humorous post not to offend anyone in a relationship (more power to ya)!

Your Body Is a Wonderland

Because nothing says HAPPY TUESDAY like some good ole Dear Diary type 'a post. 

There is a boy. No nothing serious I swear on my entire life and a half. Ever seen friends with benefits? They get together, play tennis (not really), are similar, hang out because they are similar, and eventually fall in love. So I have someone like that....minus the eventual falling in love. 

Well that's the part I've been trying to figure out FOR THE PAST FIVE YEARS OF OUR FRIENDSHIP. Luckily enough, despite our growing up, he's always been a constant thing in my life. Maybe I've just been a typical girl person who craves his attention because it makes me feel like a VIP, but strip down his flirty with every girl ego, I'm probably one of the few that know him best. We've even helped each other with relationship problems, he's helped me study(...), and my mom somehow always loved him. Perfecto, si?

My sweet 16 was Gatsby themed, can't you tell?

No. No no no no no. 

I hate that he's older than me  because obvi like every other guy, he's more immature than a boy in healthy class squirming and hiding in his giggles about those damn puberty documentaries from the 70's.  We talk, and can talk for hours, but about what? Er, usually nothing. And about friends with benefits because we watched it together (cliché move girl!!), and it's us. 

Another thing is, I think he's great and there are days I want to be like ok so when are you going to date me (but they really only happen when I realize that my single days are a struggle), and then I realize he is not the one. I don't see him being my boyfriend - supporting my decisions, which is #1 on my list besides make me smile and not meeting him on tinder. How can you be with someone who doesn't support you and your goals? YA CAN'T. I'm not saying he really can't, I guess I just don't see it happening with him because at the end of the day, thats what matters most to me.

Here's to figuring out whatever the frig the future holds. 

Bottoms up. Capri suns only.

What's your #1 must have in your partner? If they didn't have it, would you still be willing to try?

The story of us:

Want to find out why I'm head over heels ALWAYS for B? Or the reason why I think we work so well together because of our silly past? Read on, lovers of love. alright, couldn't come up with anything clever at the moment in time

1. Summer 2009: Our first time ever hanging out/picture together down the shore (read: what we call beach, obv). We met through mutual friends, aka boyfriend at the time. I couldn't help but admire (aka zoom in on my camera) his small yet ab-ed up bod.

2.Spring 2010: The first time we kissed! Well, not that night but in the spring. In a friends backyard. So unromantic but it was a dream come true (for me). Not so much for him. He totally wanted to get it over with.

3.Cotillion 2010: I begged him to take me since we went to different schools at the time. I knew it would be the start of something new. cue high school musical lyrics...

4. March 2010: Traveled the world together. Made him sit next to me for a 7 hour plane ride. Obsessed over his chin hair (because for some WEIRD reason I thought it was so cute). I also jokingly locked him in a bathroom (pictured above) because I wanted him to kiss me...he wouldn't on account of the fact his best friend (who was my best friend) liked me. B is too nice (except I was mad because I just wanted him to want me). 

Here's where B had a girlfriend and we stopped talking for a little less than a year. Then I facebook messaged him and texted him constantly because I was sadly in desperate need of a prom date. But it ended out working in the end for both of us... ;)

5. June 2012: PROM. Great weekend. And we were without a doubt the best looking couple there. He asked me out on June 3rd (the last night of prom weekend). I couldn't have asked for anything more!

6.For our one month he took me to the boardwalk (where they have shops/rides/arcades/teenagers dressing how they shouldn't/etc). I was dying to go on a Ferris Wheel and although he doesn't do heights he was a trooper and made me feel like the luckiest girl ever.

7. B's first summer concert. Granted it was Mac Miller so it wasn't fun but we saw some great friends, survived a rainstorm, and enjoyed each other's company for it was the night before my birthday (and our two months). 

8.October 2012: Pageant weekend. When I competed, he came home from school, suffered a ride with parentals, and watched 75+ girls strut their stuff. I was so excited for him to come because I knew how excited he would be since I taught him EVERYTHING he needed to know about pageants. He sent me such a sweet text afterwards and I couldn't wait to show him off to all of the girls.

9. Fall 2012: Our first semesters away at college. At a year now (NEXT MONDAY!)  we've overcome so so much and I am so happy he has been by my side. We are the greatest of friends which I think makes our relationship that much better.

Ok, so that isn't the full story but I think that's some awesome highlights of us. Hope you understand my crazy 'obsession' with him now