There is a boy. No nothing serious I swear on my entire life and a half. Ever seen friends with benefits? They get together, play tennis (not really), are similar, hang out because they are similar, and eventually fall in love. So I have someone like that....minus the eventual falling in love.
Well that's the part I've been trying to figure out FOR THE PAST FIVE YEARS OF OUR FRIENDSHIP. Luckily enough, despite our growing up, he's always been a constant thing in my life. Maybe I've just been a typical girl person who craves his attention because it makes me feel like a VIP, but strip down his flirty with every girl ego, I'm probably one of the few that know him best. We've even helped each other with relationship problems, he's helped me study(...), and my mom somehow always loved him. Perfecto, si?
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No. No no no no no.
I hate that he's older than me because obvi like every other guy, he's more immature than a boy in healthy class squirming and hiding in his giggles about those damn puberty documentaries from the 70's. We talk, and can talk for hours, but about what? Er, usually nothing. And about friends with benefits because we watched it together (cliché move girl!!), and it's us.
Another thing is, I think he's great and there are days I want to be like ok so when are you going to date me (but they really only happen when I realize that my single days are a struggle), and then I realize he is not the one. I don't see him being my boyfriend - supporting my decisions, which is #1 on my list besides make me smile and not meeting him on tinder. How can you be with someone who doesn't support you and your goals? YA CAN'T. I'm not saying he really can't, I guess I just don't see it happening with him because at the end of the day, thats what matters most to me.
Here's to figuring out whatever the frig the future holds.
Bottoms up. Capri suns only.
What's your #1 must have in your partner? If they didn't have it, would you still be willing to try?
I have a friend exactly like that. Well, kinda. We've been friends for years, and all that good stuff, but we've friendzoned each other. There's always that guy.
ReplyDeleteLove this! It sounds like y'all are just friendzoned completely, but maybe you both want a significant other - thought you might be able to find it in each other then realized why you guys were just friends in the first place? Am I right or totally off?
ReplyDeleteA number one you asked; probably chemistry, he can be hot and make me laugh but if there's no chemistry (no clickly connection) (it's more like awkward silence then comfortable silence) then it's not going to work out. Make sense?
I think the biggest deal breaker for me in dating was a super shady past. Like, we all did stupid shit when we were young, but my mom likes to look up mug shots, so there's just no future with someone who has one on the internet.
ReplyDeleteThe guy I'm with now honestly has everything I"ve been looking for. He supports me, is there for me, he's my best friend, loves me unconditionally, is a great listener, never puts me down, and loves me after even seeing every side of me. He's amazing in my eyes.
ReplyDeleteyou look so young! and girlfrand you need to call me i want to hear more about this!
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