So yes, in conclusion, a good amount of my friends know about my blog. I don't mind it much either, really. A lot of them use it to catch up with me when we have our phone dates (I'm talking to you, deb), and they usually immediately know what I'm talking about.
The other night my friend did something I've been wanting to do for a while. Post about my blog on my facebook. She posted my article about my trip March of the Living, and when I got the notification...my heart dropped into my stomach, my face was burning red of embarrassment and all I could think was fuck. I couldn't facebook message her fast enough. Truly, I was proud and excited she wanted to share my post. But my only thought was this: What if my ex was bored enough to click her link and read my blog (ok, I'm being crazy because he definitely WOULD NOT) and saw mean posts directed towards him?
Real life 1, Rachel 0.
That is the big numero uno as to why I won't share my blog on my personal facebook. Others included feeling judged by randoms (why should that matter if we're not friends besides facebook anyway...), having people read it send it to others we mutually know and laugh at it, having my grandma see it and post it all over facebook and say how proud she is of me and basically the fact that I blog for me. I've turned my blog into another class, another internship, another learning lesson. Sure it's not mandatory and I'm not cool enough to make cash money from my blog, but it sure as hell looks fab on my resume. I've learned how to network, make friends from ALL over [and meet some (hi Rach)], and lastly grow as a writer and who I am and aspire to be.
Sunshine and Sinatra 100, Haters 0.
Do you share your blog with real life friends? If you don't, do you feel like they know less about you?
None of my real life friends do. although I've met friends thru blog and they know b/c they blog too. other than that noone knows. unless they just find it which is rare. My true friends know everything anyways.
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I love this. A few of my real life friends know (and my biggest fan is my mom), but I honestly don't think they read it too often! I'm the same way: I blog for myself. I try not to get too personal in fear that others might stumble upon it sometime and thing "uh, is that about me?", but if I want to write something I'm sure as hell going to write it.
ReplyDeleteBasically the world would be a better place if you could block your blog from all the people you don't want to see it, but sadly the interweb does not work like that :(
"I'm talking to you, deb" LOL why am I not surprised, HI DEB!
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Rach, you said it perfectly. I blog for me, so why would I want to worry about what people I know think about my private corner of the internet? Recently one of my sorority sisters said she discovered my blog and I turned white as a ghost! But then she went on to say how much she liked it and that she had been thinking of starting one soon! Even though I want to keep my blog separate from my "real life" I realize that can be selfish because my friends want to be supportive of me :)
ReplyDeleteI do share mine, because it's where I posted wedding planning updates when I started it. But I try not to post conflicts about my friendships (until they're like, way way way in the past), and there have been many times where I've said "But will mom be mad that I used that word?" But if someone doesn't like it, they don't have to read it. For the most part, I don't post things on my personal page unless the post is more of a personal update on my life that I think my friends and family would want to read.
ReplyDeleteI totally agree with you there! I'm very self conscious about who reads my blog. However, all of my close friends read my blog regularly because they love to..? lol
ReplyDeleteNo I have NEVER shared mine. However, for some odd reason some family members googled my name and found some things I said about them (no names were used I guess the shoe just fit) it was pretty bad. I dont want people I know IRL to read my blog other wise Id just post it all on facebook I want this just to be a place where I can write freely...free from judgement from those I am closest too.
ReplyDeleteI have a 3 friends who know I blog, but they don't know the name of it and it doesn't come up when you google my name so they can't read it even if they wanted to. I've flat out lied about having one when my family suggests I start one. I know they'd be supportive of my writings, but the last thing I want is to have to discus every single post/comment someone leaves with my parents. I think I'll probably someday go public with it, but now just isn't the time. It's strange though because I spend so much time blogging, yet those who know me best have no idea this is my hobby.
ReplyDeleteMy real life friends are starting to learn about my blog too! And I'm not telling them, hahah, my family is find out about it through my dormify account and it's a little weird but just like you said, I blog for ME!
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ReplyDeleteMy blog gets to know more and more of my 'real life' friends/family the longer I blog. Luckily everyone has been supportive... I'm sure there are haters reading, but that will happen no matter what. Keep doing what you're doin g irl! :)
ReplyDeleteI actually share it. Maybe I'm not as personal on my blog since I do share it with my friends and on my personal Facebook. But you, my friend, are freakin' hilarious. And this post makes me love you.
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When I first started, no I didn't tell anyone but my immediate family (not even my boyfriend). But now that I'm serious about it and wish to grow it to something that can financially support me? Yeah I tell everyone, proudly. I've learn to take the empty stares, chuckles, and weird looks in stride when I tell people "I'm a blogger." But honestly, those reactions are far apart and few. For the most part people are actually interested, and they might even tell you they have their own blog.
ReplyDeleteBesides having friends read it keeps me in check. If I ever start to 'lose my voice' or 'give into blogging trends' they are quick to call me out on it and get me back on track lol.
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I don't share with my "real life" friends but a few have found me through blogs that they enjoy reading or the occasional tweet I shoot out (you know I suck at twitter). Also, one of my best friends introduced me to blogging so we read each others but I feel the same way you do. I blog for me and I truly enjoy the support system the blogging world has to offer. Its nice knowing that the people who read your blog and respond are your friends because of who you are and what you write about.
ReplyDeleteThere is nothing fake about the way people express themselves blogging, so to introduce it to people who you see on a regular basis and you feel like you can't write about anything and everything kind of defeats the purpose.
My biggest fear is that my students will find it!! AHH! I hope that never happens and it becomes a big thing for them!