When you're in a relationship, you are too blind to see how lonely your single friends are because you constantly update your snapchat story to a picture of your beau, your tweets become ALL about him, and he's like one of the two people you hang out with, besides your pet. Relationship rachel? That was so her, too. Single sunshiney Rach? Not so much.
I've never been the one to go life without a boyfriend. I sound creepily non independent but trust me I am - I just really like having someone to bother constantly. The past 8 or so months of being single has taught me a lot, like any cliche person would say...#guilty. It's showed me how I'm really great at not being in a relationship, but how much I crave one. Granted, I do not want to be in a relationship just because I need one. Talking to Rachael has helped me a lot. She is such a strong lady friend who proves that happiness can come within and dudes are all lame-o heads. The hardest part of all of this shenanigans is telling yourself you are okay. Granted like my post the other day, you can't depend on your friends advice or what you always read to define your life.
One thing I don't believe in, sadly, is that if I stop looking he will find me. I'm sorry but guys suck and are lazy. The end. People say they like their friends single better and that was fab in high school. I lived a crazy life that I definitely do not do now. I'm the relationship type of person.
I like to be a grandma and spend nights just hanging out and getting dinner or take out, watching HGTV (okay I can settle for sports)...I am not a crazy fuzzy boot raver who decides to mack on all those weird raver mask dudes...this actually sounds terrible. I'm the person who'd rather be in the back of a concert because you have more room to breathe, not moshing between the yuck of post pubescent high schoolers. I need brunch on at least one weekend morning, or else my weekend is not complete.
It's definitely gotten easier to meet new people with online dating and the good old Tindy, but it's swarming with weirdos and creeps galore -- also known as places its hard to find a potential boyfriend.
For now, I'm gucci with being single even though it's mating season. I'm guessing I'll just stick to dating netflix, what a hunk. *heart eyes emoji*
Thankfully I was only in the dating scene for 2 months after my divorce that sounds awful whatever those 2 months were really freakin weird!
ReplyDeleteI feel ya on this. Couple friends just don't realize what us single folk have to go thru, but I am with you on being at the back of the concert. Also I love my relationship with Netflix :)!
ReplyDeleteSweet girl, this is GONNA GET EASIER. I promise. You know it's a struggle, and ignore everyone who says "you can't find someone unless you're happy with yourself"because that's bull, too. Just keep doing your thang, and the right guy will come at the right time.
ReplyDeleteAnd until then, I'm here <3 Love you!
Definitely know what you mean! Whenever anyone older asks me if I'm single they say "good, boys/boyfriends at your age are nothing but trouble" and I'm seriously starting to understand why!
ReplyDeleteJust dont concentrate on being single and it's not that bad. I did it for years and didnt concentrate on being single and concentrated on friends and family and just having me time and it was great.
ReplyDeleteUgh we're too similar.. except I'll gladly stay in and watch "sex sent me to the ER" or the food channel any day. G'mas for the win.
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When Jon and I met, I had no idea that we were going to be dating two years later. It was so unexpected, and I was loving the single life, not looking for a relationship at all. I'm sure you will find the perfect guy when you're least expecting it! You're a catch, and the guys will come flocking!
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