For the sake of argument let's gossip about Jack and Sally. Jack and Sally met like any other 21st century couple these days (leaving the possibilities up to you). They've gone on dates, are definitely into each other, and it's all been a walk in the park. For reals for reals.
Date 5 came around because let's be real girls are stupid. Sorry, Sal. A fine time it was, or so she says. He almost killed her on a boat (story to possibly come...must ask Sally), and even by car....Those crazy drivers.... They went minigolfing, Jack paid. She said she lost but I would at least hope she got a few good rounds in... Dinner time came -- better late than never -- and she up front offered to pay this time. No hesitations came from around the dinner table. So she handed over the big bucks and made a snide remark about going halfsies. To sum up jack, he said: Why offer to pay if you don't want to pay?
My questions for you:
Is Sally really a JAP (jewish american princess) (read: SPOILED)?
When do you think guys should let you start paying? Are there real defined rules?
Does Jack have a right to complain about the fact she shouldn't complain because she offered?
#TEAMSALLY #FLOWERPOT
Can I just say I love your written voice? You are too funny. I cracked up when you referred to Sally as "my girl S." Loved this post. I always offer to pay out of politeness especially since we are both in the poor college student phase most likely. When I'm in a relationship, I'm also happy to take my guy out on my treat to show my appreciation for him too. I think it's a difference between modern and traditional. I'm more modern, but I understand traditional couples too. It's all about what you fancy!
ReplyDeleteCan I start by saying that my boyfriend loves to call me a JAP? What a meanie. Anyway, I think it depends on SO many things - who has a job, whether you're in a relationship, etc. My boyfriend paid while we were "dating" and he still pays for most of our nights out, while I treat him once in a while. Then again, I pay for and cook all of our meals at home so I guess it's fair. But he can't really complain if she offered - no one likes a taker backer!
ReplyDeleteLoved this post doll. Thanks for following me on social media! You are one of my favorite bloggers and I can't wait to get to know you better!
Michaela || The Monogrammed Midwesterner
I'm probably really weird, but I almost prefer to pay at the beginning. That way if things don't go well I don't feel bad about ignoring a guy who's spent a ton of money (he probably doesn't have) on me. I don't mind feeling indebted a few drinks, but I don't want to feel like I owe a guy multiple dinners and a movie. In the end though I think it all comes down to how much you like the guy. Would you rather see him less because he can't afford to take you out that often? But Sally probably shouldn't listen to me because I'm perpetually single, so what do I know
ReplyDeleteLITERALLY DYING AT THE #FLOWERPOT I CAN'T I LOVE YOU
ReplyDeleteWhen my boyfriend and I were "dating", he paid, but once we were exclusive aka a title, he began to let me pay because we're both broke college kids. He's too proud and never lets me pay, but I force sometimes because it's only fair. But I think when he's still "courting" you, he should be paying.. I'm a traditional gal!
ReplyDeleteI think that it depends on two factors-the first is whose working. If you're working and he's not, then I would be the one who offers to go halfway. However, if you're working AND he's working he should pay, at least while he's trying to find his way into your heart. Otherwise, in my opinion, it's just plain ol' tacky. Don't apologize for being a princess! :p
ReplyDeleteI agree with some of what the girls above said. In the beginning (1st-3rd) date, I totally believe he should pay. Then as time goes on and you guys develope something more, then you can start footing the bill. I guess it depends on the people and the relationship they have, but that's how I see it.
ReplyDeleteBy the way, your writing was awesome! :)